The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
The Book of Forgiving, written together by the Nobel Peace Laureate Archbishop Desmond Tutu, and his daughter Revd Mpho Tutu, offers a deeply personal testament and guide to the process of forgiveness.
All of us have at times needed both to forgive and be forgiven – whether small, everyday harms or real traumas. But the path to forgiveness is not easy, and the process unclear. How do we let go of resentment when we have been harmed, at times irreparably? How do we forgive and still pursue justice? How do we heal our hearts, and move on? How do we forgive ourselves for the harm we have caused others?
Drawing on his memories of reconciliation in post-apartheid South Africa, Archbishop Desmond Tutu has identified four concrete steps to forgiveness through which we must all pass if we are to reach our destination:
1) Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm
2) Telling one’s story and witnessing the anguish
3) Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness
4) Renewing or releasing the relationship
Each chapter contains reflections and personal stories, as well as exercises for practising each step of the path. The Book of Forgiving is a touchstone and tool for anyone seeking the freedom of forgiveness: an inspiring guide to healing ourselves and creating a more united world.
‘A very 21st century approach to forgiveness.’- Christianity Magazine -
‘Mpho and Desmond Tutu have walked the way of forgiveness over a long period of time, and now they have shared their story with us in their practical and inspiring book.’ -
- Canon Stephen Hance, Southwark Cathedral -
‘This is a wonderful book filled with practical advice.’ -
- Yoga Magazine -
‘This is at one level a handbook, useful to all, indispensable to anyone who desperately needs to forgive or be forgiven.’ -
- The Very Reverend Dr John Arnold -
‘A … self-help manual… that seeks to prod [us] towards a practical understanding that forgiveness heals whereas revenge tears people and societies apart.’ -
- The Sunday Times -